What were you taught about mistakes during your childhood?
- Miatakes are bad.
- You shouldn't make mistakes.
- You're stupid, bad inadequate, or a failure if you make mistakes.
- If you make a mistake, don't let people find out. If they do, make up an excuse even if it isn't true.
What call these crazy notions about mistakes because they not only damage self-esteem, they invite depression and discouragement. It is difficult to learn and grow when you feel discouraged. We all know people who have made a mistake and then dug themselves into a hole by trying to cover it up. They don't understand that people are often very forgiving when other admit their mistakes, apologize, and try to solve the problem they have created.
Hiding mistakes keeps you isolated because you can't fix mistakes that are hidden, or you can learn from them. Trying to prevent mistakes keep you rigid and fearful. As the saying "Good judgement comes from experience and experience comes from poor judgement." Don,t be shy, every person in the world make mistakes as long as they lives.
Teach kids to see making a mistake as an opportunity to get valuable help from others. This will encourage them to take responsibility for what they have done, even if it was a mistake, because they know it doesn't mean they are bad or will get in trouble.
The Three Rs of Recovery
Tell your children that making mistake isn't as important as what they do about them. Anyone can make mistakes, but it takes a secure person to say,"I'm sorry." If a child would like to make amends for a mistake,the Three Rs of Recovery can help them to do so.
- Recognize the mistake with a feeling of responsibility instead of blame.
- Reconcile by apologizing to the people you have offended or hurt.
- Resolve the problem, when possible, by working together on a solution.
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