The story was involved between a farmer who selling a pound of butter to the baker. It has been happened for so long time ago, which I managed to recall it. There was about how importance of credibility in life. What is the effects of lost credibility in life.
One day the baker decided to weight the butter to see if he was getting a pound and he found that he was not. This angered him and took this matter and the farmer to court. The judge asked the farmer if he was using any measure. The farmer replied, "Your Honor, I'm primitive, I don't have a proper measure, but I do have a scale." The judge asked, "Then how do you weight the butter?" The farmer replied, "Your Honor, long before the baker started buying butter from me, I have been buying a pound loaf of bread from him. Every day when the baker brings the bread, I put it on the scale and give him the same weight in butter. If anyone is to be blamed, it is the baker." What is the moral of the story? We get back in life what we give to others. That is not my main point. My interested point is someone's credibility and life progress.
Whenever I take an action, I ask myself this question: Am I giving fair value for the wages of money I hope to make? Honesty and dishonesty become a habit. Some people practice dishonesty and can lie with a straight face. Others lie so much that they don't even know what the truth is anymore. But who are the deceiving? Themselves - more than anyone else.
Honesty can be put across gently. Some people take pride in being brutally honest. It seems they are getting a bigger kick out of the brutality than the honesty. Choice of words and tack are important.
Truth may not always be what I want to hear
One can be truthful without being cruel but that may not always be the case. The most important responsibility of an honest friend is to be truthful. Some people, in order to avoid confronting painful truths, select friends who tell them what they want to hear. They kid themselves despite the fact that deep down they know they are not being truthful. Honest criticism can be painful. If I have many acquaintances and few friends, it is time to step back and explore the depth of your relationships. A lack of honesty is sometimes labeled as tact, public relations or politics. But is it really so.
The problem with lying is that one has to remember one's lies. Honesty requires firmness and commitment. How many times have we all been guilty of
- little while lies?
- flattery?
- omitting facts or giving half-truth?
- telling the greatest lies by remaining silent?
We all know the story of the Shepperd boy who cried wolf. He lost his sheep to the wolf. What is the moral of the story?
- When people tell lies, they lose credibility.
- Once they have lost credibility, even when they tell the truth, no one believes him.
- incomplete facts or information
- exaggeration
Exaggeration
Exaggeration does two things:
- It weaken a person's case and make him lose credibility.
- It is like addiction. It becomes a habit. Some people can't tell the truth without exaggerating.
Sincerity is a matter of intent and hard to prove. We can achieve our goals by having a sincere desire to help others.
Stay away from pretense
If you really want to help, think of something appropriate to be done and then do it. Don't put on the cloak of sincerity more out of selfishness than substance, hoping that some day they could claim the right to receive help. Stay away from meaningless and phony pleasantries.
Caution - Sincerity is no measure of good judgement. Someone could be sincere, yet wrong. Actions speak louder than words. Sincerity can be judged from our action not words. Actions never lies.
A little Black Pen
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